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still at it after what i said. Got my mum to pay a large amount into my bank to cover my loses on the guarentee that i would not do it again and 2 days later i lost 3500 whilst i was meant to be looking after my 3 yr old daughter. i was betting while she sat on my knee trying to get attention What a sad and pathetic person i am. Next day she is watching an advert for disneyland going oooh ahhh and im there thinking sorry luv cant afford to take you cos im throwing my life and yours away.
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stu, it sounds to me like you are a compulsive gambler. please call the helpline or come to a meeting. you can talk to people who understand what you are going through.
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Is it alright to ask questions on here about the recovery programme
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if you have a question then i'll do my best to answer it.
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My name is Sharon and my husband is a compulsive gambler. He was a gambler when we met 10 years ago but over the last few years since he was ill his gambling has got out of control to a point where i've threatened to leave. I recently attended an open meeting at GA with him and have been asked to share my story.After almost dying from meningitis my husband was left unable to work for a couple of years and put on benefits. He started gambling more out of boredom and told me he felt worthless as i had become the main bread winner. I know this dented his pride.When he went back to work part time his benefits were cut and money was tight so i took on a second job working from 7pm to 4am on Friday and Saturday as well as full time 8am to 5pm Monday to Friday. This was supposed to help pay off credit cards but his gambling started to get worse and instead of being able to pay off my debts i had to use this money to buy the weekly food shopping. After a year and a half i've had to give up my second job as i haven't been keeping well.I feel constantly stressed out about money and debt. I don't know who we owe or how much we owe but i know he has borrowed money and it makes me feel ashamed and embarrassed.I remember finding him in the bookies once and asked him to stop gambling and come home or did i have to go home on my own He said go away i'll see you back at the house i'm not finished.I remember another time at the shopping centre i took most of his money before he went in the bookies and i went for some shopping. When i went back for him he asked for some money back and to save arguing in public i gave in before i knew it he'd managed to get it all off me including some of my own on the promise that he had money in the house and would give me it back. He was lying and i was left with 10 to get the weekly shopping.I don't understand why something doesn't click in his head telling him it's wrong when he's feeding all his wages into a roulette machine or when he's pawning all his jewellery to try to win back what he's lost or when he's emptying the joint bank account. I've now set up internet banking and pay the mortgage money in the night before instead of the day before so he can't access it while i'm at work. I hate not being able to trust him but i need to keep the roof over our heads.I don't understand why he doesn't seem to give me any thought at all when he's gambling. I feel like he doesn't respect me or love me especially when he seems to find it so easy to pawn his wedding ring.It's hard going in to work every day with a smile pretending everything is ok. I've only recently told my mum what's been going on because it's all been getting too much to cope with on my own. I've kept it to myself for years because i don't want anyone to think bad of my husband i love him he's not a bad person he's got an illness called gambling. I try my best not to nag him because i know it doesn't help but when there are bills to pay and he gambles it annoys me.My husband has had a lot to deal with over the past few years and i admire how he copes with the constant pain he's in on a daily basis and just gets on with it but in the last 4 years i've had to deal with his recovery from the meningitis on my own I've been diagnosed with a long term medical condition I've lost my youngest uncle to a brain tumour and last year within the space of 6 months my grandad and my dad were diagnosed with cancer. I'm not telling you all this looking for sympathy i'm trying to tell my husband that i've only got small shoulders and his gambling heaped on top of everything else is pushing me to breaking point.It was a relief when he finally admitted he needs help and went to his first GA meeting in Livingston. He's missed a couple and gambled both times so he knows he has to keep going every week.I'll do whatever i can to support him. I'd like to thank everyone at GA Livingston for their support and i'm proud to say for the last 5 weeks my husband has no gambling to report.
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Thanks for your contribution Sharon. I'm glad you and your husband are getting the benefit of him being in GA. I wish him continued success in his recovery.
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Iam a compulsive gambler and i hate myself for gambling when i win i think i am invinsible and take on a new personitaly that i am a big man and cant lose until the reality sets in and i loose and then i become agitated and nervious and can only think of recopeing my losses the only time i dont think abut gambling is when i am sleeping and it drives me crazy just thinking about it ihave had counciling on aone to one basic and it helped for a while an i thought i had a miricle cure and i would not gamble ever again six months down the line i started to gamble again and this went on for threeyears then i went for more counoiling then i went to a ga meeting it was good and i enjoyed it and was very friendly and i got all the litriture and phone numbers oftwo people i could phone if i got the urge to ganble but due to work commitments i never got back and then i went down the slipery slope back to gambling again as i write this i have lost one thosand two hundred pounds but it is my own fault and i diserve everything i get add it is down the downward spiral i go chasing my dream of the big win that will never come
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James, I'd urge you to come back to GA. I'm sure even with work commitments you could attend a meeting a week. i wish you all the best.
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Have been going through a bad time over the last year split up from partner and stuggling money wise. Stupidly took to gambling online.What started off as 50p there 1 there has turned into losing 10000 last nightSeven of which came out of my Mortgage account. What did i do this morning threw away my last hundred pound doing the same thing. The house is up for sale and i still dont know how i am going to explain that i threw away what little equity there was. Dont gamble Just dont
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It certainly sounds like GA could be have some help to you Stuart. I can identify with much of what you are saying. i'd urge you to call the helpline or attend a meetng.
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I want to go to GA tonight. Do I need to call And what should I expect I entend to go to a beginners meeting tonight. Thank you.
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i hope you did get to that meeting Jacqui. No you don't need to call, just show up to any meeting and you will be welcomed.
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I continue to go to the casino and play slots until every penny is gone. Even when I have won up to 400 I play until its gone. It makes me sick. Presently I am trying to stay away taking ALL my willpower. I wish they had never built a casino near my home. I intend to go cold turkey but time will tell.
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I would urge you to get to a meeting or call the helpline. Gamblers Anonymous will give you a much greater chance of staying away from gambling than willpower alone.
| carolanne |
Posted 04/03/2012 |
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carolanne partick tuesday i am 28 yrs old and i am a compulsive gambler.I have a problem with gambling online I have been coming to GA for a few months now when i first came to a meeting i was petrified but i knew that what i was doing wasnt normal something had to be done. I have left and came back several times. Why do i keep coming back I know this is the ONLY place that will help me with this ILLNESS. I am struggling with it at the moment but i have the help and support of fellow members i know i need to stick at GA. Everyone understands you and can relate to you aswell the past week has been the worst time of my life caused by gambling it causes so much damage and it takes you so low i am sick of all the liesdishonesty and hurt that i cause everyone close to me i have been with my partner for 12 years. We have 2 kids and another 1 on the way i cant live my life like this anymore i dont want to its not a life i want to beat this illness and be happy again i am FINALLY admitting that i am powerless over gambling Enough is Enough Also i would like to say to anyone reading this who thinks they have a problem please call the GA helpline its there 24 hours also i would advise you to go to a meeting aswell as soon as possible you will be made welcome everytime we are all in the same situation and know exactly how you feel you are not alone.
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Carolanne, just keep on going to your meetings. Everyone's recovery is different. There is no time limit.
GA will always be there for you and all compulsive gamblers.
I wish you all the best with your recovery.
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Hi well i have had a serious gambling problem since i was 18 and now just about to turn 25. I have done many stupid and shelfish things due to this problem including stealing from family on serveral occasions. Currently i'm not working but i can't seem to go a day without thinking about placing a bet. This mentality is wots leading me to steal the money. Its ruining my life and i have around 10k debts and raked up debts in familys name aswell. I cant sleep with worry and well............really need some HELP. I have considered the GA meeting before but not sure if i ould qualify as a compulsive gambling and esp tht i am JSA and not got a large income. It would make me feel like the members would feel that im not gambling much money compared to them but for me its the only money I have and thts all i can spend unless stealing it and I cant do that anymore or a will have no one nd dealing with this alone is a No NO in my book.
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Jason,
It certainly sounds like you are a compulsive gambler. Compulsive gambling is not a financial problem, its a mental one. The amounts of money don't matter, its how it affects us and the people around us.
I would urge you to attend a meeting, you can be assured of a warm welcome and you will identify with other members who can give you the support you need.
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Hi my name is John 26y.o and i am a compulsive gambler.Today sees me 100days without a bet.How different my life was 15 weeks ago the total destruction i was causing was seriously stressing me out and i was struggling to cope with all the debts and payday loans i had built up through my gambling problem and more specifically my addiction to Roulette Machines. I was lieing to my partner my family absolutely everyone in an attempt to hide my problem. I could see no other way forward than to win my way out of the situation.I knew enough was enough and i came to GA back in November and havent looked back since.I have put so many barriers in place to reducee the temptation to make a bet from having my partner controlling the money and me getting 'pocket money' to wee reminders that i today i wont gamble on the instead of the petrol cap on my car.I proposed to my partner last week and was so happy when she said yes. There is no way she would even have thought of saying yes if i was still gambling infact i wouldnt even have had the chance as i would have been out on my own.The burning urge and focus to stop gambling is so strong in me and i want to prove to myself 1st and foremost as well as family that i can be a believable and reliable person that i am.I am just so greatful that I found my way to GA and will continue to stay focused each and everyday in my recovery.John N compulsive gambler no gambling to report and none for the last 100days
GA Reply
Its great to see GA is working so well for you and your life has turned around.
Keep up the good work.
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Hi all decided to post this to let others know that you can have a life without gambling.I first came to GA in march 2008 stayed six months and thought I could do it myself how wrong I was.GA has not been around the time it has if we could do it ourselves.I have had a one year pin before but once again slipped up but I never gave up and now realise that I need GA in my life until I die.I believe now that you really do have to put effort into GA in order to obtain a better life for both you and your family.GA has given me so much that I didn't have in life that I want to keep this life going forward without the hardship and misery of long ago.We as compulsive gamblers can't do this on our own as we will only end up back on our downward spiral of lyingcheatingstealingmisery and discontent.Everyone at all meetings are there for each other and with keeping an open mind you can learn so much of how to better our lives from both experienced and new members.I personally love my meetings but I also have a lot of phone contact out with meetings which also helps.The tools are there provided by GA but it is up to each of us to use them to the best of our ability.I will finish by thanking my many friends in GA for all the help and guidance given to me over the past three and a half yearsfriends to numerous to mention.I wish everyone a gambling free day and many more in the. future.My name is patcompulsive gambler no gambling to report.
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A fantastic example of how GA works if you take the advice given.
I wish you continued success in your recovery.
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finally admitted to myself i have a problem i cant stop betting on football online spending 75 quid a time on games live on tv by putting single bets on stuff like race to 2 goals pen bettingown goals or red cards cat admit to family and friends this not had the courage yet keep telling myself i will stop but when i get home i get the urge i cant resist to bet. where do i start to cure this problem.
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it certainly sounds like you are a compulsive gambler and that GA could help you. Please call the helpline on 0370 050 8881 or just come to any meeting. You can find details on the meetings tab on the front page. I can assure you will get a warm welcome and you can start to get the support and help you need.
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Hi all my name is Graeme and I am a compulsive gambler.Well here I am a year to the day down the line since I went to the bank to get money out of my bank account to embark on another gambling weekend of sheer madness and mayhem. What a year since thoughI know at this time last year I had reached the point of no return in my life and that I was wasting our savings left right and centre so something had to give. I was confronted by my wife a couple of days after my last withdrawal when she asked if I was still gambling So what did I do well due to the nature of the illness I lied again I knew my time was up and so did my wife. I crumbled was a broked man. Then I admitted to her that I was still gambling. Then the egotistical and selfish person in me tookover no talking with my wife why All because I didn't want to admit to her that I was finally beaten. I eventually took the courage to call the helpline and it has been one of the best decisions that I have made in my life.On the 10th of February last year one of the most important days in my life I went to attend the beginners meeting at EK and admittedly I was petrified Got to the door and I was about to do a sharp about turn and get out of there but I am glad that I didn't.I was made so welcome by everyone at the meeting and I haven't looked back since.It's a year now since my last bet with my first pinning coming up.I also know that it's still early in my recovery and I only take that day at a time to help me recover but what a dramatic transformation.I was given tremendous support and encouragement at my first meeting and I cherish those kind words and I certainly won't forget them. When I was in the throws of my gambling days I probably couldn't have went a day without a bet never mind a full year so it goes to show that the meetings and support given does work.Anybody that is out there and looking in and reading the comments not just from me but from everyone else that has posted then all that I can say is come forward and you will be made most welcome. And take it from me if you have the desire to try and stop then things in your life will improve. For me the most important thing was getting back to a normal way of thinking and living and long may it continue. I am looking forward to another gamble free day tomorrow and as long as I keep to my programme then that will happen for me.I'm Graeme and I'm a compulsive gambler.
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Graeme, you are a great example of how the GA program works. Congratulations on your year free from gambling.
| margaret |
Posted 07/11/2011 |
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Hi everyone I attend GA and i can honestly say its the best decision i ever made. The help and support i get there is wonderful i feel that i am in the only place that truly understands my addiction. I have met a lot of good people there that help me especially when i am struggling. I know its the only place i want to be if i dont attend my meetings and speak to people and let them know how i am doing then i am alone with this terrible illness. GA is a wonderful place to be involved in and i am proud to say i am a member. So if there is anyone thiking about picking up the phone to GA then i woul urge you to do so it can give you so much in your life and a lot of peace of mind give it a go and try my name is margaret im a compulsive gambler no gambling to report .
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Hi Margaret, apologies in the delayed response. Your contribution is much appreciated, happiest wishes in your continued recovery.
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Like most people reading this i could tell you my tales of woe about how much i lost who i hurt what i did to get money etc..all relevant stuff but i just felt i would be better mentioning how much GA has helped. Having gambled for years i finaly chose to go to a meeting i had thought about it before but wasn't ready so eventually i was and i took the first step. I had no idea what to expect but i was relieved to find out it couldn't have been more laid back and open no cliques or ignoring the new guy everyone there welcomed me and and made me feel relaxed. I wasn't asked to speak but felt comfortable and told my story as expected people were the same as me if not worse. The information given to me and the advice from the members about filling my time and pointers on how to change helped me stay away from gambling for a few months. I should have kept going but although i had been warned i fell back into the trap i stopped going to meetings and sure enough the gambling creeped back into my life. It started small but ended up with me losing all my money in the casino i knew then where i had to go and even after losing what i had i felt good knowing i was going back to the meetings. I did that and once again i'm on the straight and narrow. I'm filling my time better staying away from my friends who still gamble and looking forward in life instead of thinking of what could have been.My main point tho is to anyone reading this who maybe feels worried about going along to a meeting give it a chance you'd be surprised at how it goes you will see things a bit differently obviously the onus is on you to change but the fact you're here should tell you that its time to change and with the help of going along to a meeting and talking with like minded people who have been there and done it can make a huge difference. Its hard work stopping gambling but it's a lot easier than the ducking and diving keeping up with the lies letting everyone down and all the other things that come hand in hand with compulsive gambling.best of luck.
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Your story contains a very good lesson. Recovery can only be sustained if we continue to put in the effort. As meetings get missed, the illness creeps back in and soon enough gambling again is the next step.
I wish you all the best in your recovery.
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hi i am 23 years old and i think i am a compulsive gambler. i go in the bookies nearly every day and play the roulette machines. i often find myself hundreds of pounds down within minutes then a quick trip to the cashpoint to get more funds to repeat the previous bet thinking it must come in this time. sometimes it does and i break even which makes me happy but then it always gets put straight back in the next day if not the same day. i started gambling when i was 16 and i would say over the last 8years the longest i have gone without a bet would be 10 weeks i tell myself over and over again that im going to stop and this was my last bet but i always end up going back. i think the most iv ever won in a day is around 500pounds but i reckun my losses will accumulate to 20 times that. i want to stop so badly. can i do it on my own or do i need help
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James, it certainly sounds like you are a compulsive gambler.
Please get in touch via the helpline or simply attend any meeting (you can find details on this website under the meetings link, there are many meetings in Scotland).
You can be assured of a warm welcome and the help and support from others who have been in your situation.
You can't do it alone but with GA's help you can.
| Craig D |
Posted 10/01/2012 |
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My name is Chris and I'm a 28 year old compulsive gambler. My downfall is roulette machines in the bookies and online roulette as well as football betting particularly first goalscorers. I attended GA about 2 years ago for around 3 months but stopped going as I guess I wasn't ready to stop. I've been gambling sine I was 14. I used to play the fruit machines and would be angry with myself when I used to lose 40 60 100 trying to win out of a machine with a 15 jackpot. Little did I know that in a few years time I would be losing 100 per spin in the bookies.I have spent thousands and thousands of my wages on these roulette machines. These have turned me into a liar and a different person. I used to get excited when payday was nearing sometimes even taking a days holiday. This was not to do something nice with my wife and children this was to spend the whole day in the bookies. I earn a good wage but still I stupidly please these machines time and time again. I have lost many times and swore to myself that I would never return but as soon as I got paid again I was straight into the bookies. It would be that bad that sometimes I would wait up until the early hours of the morning i.e. 3am for my wages to be paid into my bank then blow the lot online. I'd then go to bed at 6am only to wake up at 830am to take my kids to school. There's nothing worse than sitting with no money in your bank on pay day. My next step would be to cancel all my direct debits on my account as I had no money in the bank as this would only result in one thing bank charges. Then all the dreaded phone calls ducking and diving. I nearly had my family car taken off me which I managed to get on HP. I was bankrupt through gambling at the age of 21 as I had racked up 45k worth of debt and I have always struggled with getting credit. I knew if if I lost the car it would have had disastrous consequences.Whenever I won at the bookies I was such a generous guy. I would splash out on things for me the wife and kids. Whenever I lost I became this horrible withdrawn moody and aggressive person who would shout at the wife and kids at the slightest thing and would grudge paying for everyday goods such as food electricity gas children's clothes etc.3 weeks before Christmas I lost 1500 in the bookies. 500 of this was for bills 800 was for the rest of the Christmas presents and 200 for food shopping etc. I didn't know what to do. I embaressingly turned to a work colleague and told her what I did. She thought I was crazy but she agreed to give me 1000 which I could pay her back at 250 per month for 4 months. I was so grateful. She took the money out of her savings and paid 1000 into my bank. A few hours after she paid the money in I did something real bad. I took out the money and gambled it to try and recoup the extra 500. I lost every penny again. The next thing I did was try to apply for provident payday loans etc. Even these people wouldn't give me money. I even went as low to borrowing 200 from one of these companies to repay 450. I was disgusted with myself and I felt like such a loser.For me christmas was going to be ruined but I managed yet another excuse and the same friend borrowed me a further 500 which was 1500 in total and to be paid back at 250 per month for 6 months. Luckily for my children I decided to buy them Christmas presents with that money. My mum also helped me out so the kids got the Christmas they deserved. I made a vow at new years to stop gambling which so far I've been able to do. It's only been 10 days but for someone who was betting every day that was a success. My gambling go so bad that I would often sit for hours in the house trying to work out roulette systems. A friend once told me that if you add every number on the roulette table it comes to a total of 666. I was playing the devils game and I was losing my money and my life.I'm going to change I need to change for my family. I need to stop hurting the people I love the most. All the stories I have read on this site have part of me in it. I feel very sad and upset when I see people writing that they have considered or have went as far as attempting to end their life. Think of your loved ones and your children. I'm sure they would rather have a skint dad than no dad. We can fight this together everyone. God bless you all xxxx
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Hi Craig, thanks for posting. I related to all of it. Powerful, heart felt stuff. I wish you the best in your recovery, one day at a time.
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Its not to late for mebut I'm on the road to ruin if I keep gambling.ive lived with the problem for yearsbut the amounts are going up from spare cash to fortnight wages.i told myself I'd stop when my daughter was bornand six months later I've lost 1600 hundred before our 1st Xmas togetheras a familyi feel so guiltyIts always roulette n the bookiesI can't wait 5 min for a horse to runor for football games to kick offI even get anxious waiting for the staff to load 500 or what ever I choose on to the machine from my bank cardit has to be instant.i work 6 days a week to provide for usand miss out on some quality time with my daughterbut blow it all for whati never walk out upeverwhat's wrong with meI'm not stupid.i used to play Fruitys and you would struggle to loose 150a big loss still surebut not thousands like these machines take now with ease.
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Hi Mat, I've heard many people in G.A. say when how they made a promise to stop after their child was born and the result was the same, an inability to stay away. Please try and go to a meeting near you to try and get a better life away from gambling.
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Hi. Ive just revised this site after posting a story some year and a half ago or more. When I contacted GA I was at the end of the road with gambling. I called GA one evening after yet another unsuccessful day of trying to beat the bookies roullette machines. I was really disappointed to hear on the other end of the phone was a guy that would only speak about his life etc etc and not once did he ask me about how I was feeling that night etc. I hung up very disappointed and feeling all alone. The courage I plucked up to call GA was let down by the person at the other end of the phone that evening. Yes it's important to hear everyone's story but sometimes it's just as important to listen.I put that evening down to experience and continued my battle alone with the bookies roullette machines. As everyone on this site knows these evil machines cannot be beaten and I still never learnt my lesson. This time though I feel different. After losing very very heavily a week or so ago things have come to a head and into a situation that I cannot ignore. The heavy losses suffered included my January mortgage payment. I have no way of getting hold of that level of money in order to meet the payment this month therefore I have to advise my mortgage provider that I'm unable to pay. This brings my gambling into a new area which has never been affected before - spending funds meant for the mortgage. Only when I sat down that evening after losing the money in one single roulette machine did I realise that I am now willing to gamble everything in pursuit of that big win or chasing my money. This my friends is where reality must sink in for me. I have taken the first step to losing my home that I love dearly through my gambling. I have told myself that must never ever happen and to address the problem now. It's been more than a week since that heavy loss day and im still more that determined that that heavy loss day will be my last. No more will I feed the bookies roulette machines in order to enhance their profits. I look at the individuals now visiting the bookies to play these fixed odds terminals and it's young men young women older men and older women In fact all walks of life and all ages you can now see in a bookies playing these evil evil machines. Most of us have seen how these machines can change the personality of those playing them turning them into moody desperate people. I should know as they have the same effect on me. I don't like the person I become when playing these machines. I have a very worrying remainder of January ahead of me as I have next to nothing to live on and have unpaid bills for this period as well. But what's more important for me now are the things and people who mean so much more to me than getting my next play of those fixed odds betting terminals. I hope the Government will realise in time to come that these machines bring as much if not more misery than illegal drugs do. By sanctioning these seemingly unregulated machines for use as they do makes them no better than drug dealers themselves. I wish you all fighting your gambling demons the very best for the future. One day at a time my friends.
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Hi Mike. I am sorry to hear your phone call to G.A. didn't offer the support you felt you were entitled to. The phone line is manned on a volunteer basis and each individual is responsible for helping the callers who need help - to encourage them to attend a G.A. meeting where they can receive support. Did you go to a meeting? I will email the office and ask that a reminder is minuted at the next national meeting to all phone line volunteers to refresh those of the answer phone protocol. As a recovering compulsive gambler myself I have in the past looked for any excuse not to accept help from others, to not listen to others when the words they speak offer hope, show a life that I could obtain if I stayed away from gambling and instead use the tiniest reasons to go back gambling, because the addiction wins until I wanted to genuinely stop. If I was in your shoes Mike, (and I have been) I would stop worrying about the government and what machines are being supplied to betting shops, who is playing them and focus on the personal situation in hand. I would attend a G.A. meeting to seek the help that your post indicates you now so badly want. I wish you all the best in your recovery Mike.
| william |
Posted 30/12/2011 |
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just a wee note to all the girls and boys at all the GA meetings keep up all the good work still feeling great of a bet now for 65days one day at a time BOYS wish i had done it 30 years ago i no i wouldnt have done this without GA helping me cant thank them enough cheers for now
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Thanks William.
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Ive just found out my sons a compulsive gambler and has run up thousands in debts. I want to wrap him up and save him the dispair but I know I can't. I'm worried and feel helpless to do anything. I know it has to come from him. I'll do anything to save him from a life of gambling and self loathing. I hate to think of him alone and desperate. A simple bookies bet has led on to a life of addiction. My beautiful boy now drowning. Thank god for gamblers anonymous. Maybe he will have a chance at some life with your help. For now I feel sick. All I am doing is worrying. I know nothing and want to learn so his next slip will be a long time coming.
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Hi Jane. If you would like to speak to someone please do call the helpline 0370 050 8881. There is also and maybe more suitable a Gam Anon section on this website with a phone number for family members to speak with like minded people. You have a very mature attitude towards your son and are correct, it has to come from himself. That said, many members were forced through the G.A. door and have stayed, forever grateful for that wake up call. I wish you well and hope your son comes to G.A. for a better life.
| GA Scotland Webmaster |
Posted 20/12/2011 |
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Dear all sincere apologies for delayed responses to all posts for the previous two months.
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Not all maybe aware but GA Scotland is run on a volunteer basis and some of the Internet responsibilities are in the process of being transitioned. This is by no means an excuse for the delayed replies given that when people post most are in desperate situations and are looking for help. This will not happen again and those seeking help have been contacted personally by myself by email where possible.
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I now feel ready for help. this time last year I thought I could do no worse I had gambled a total of over 140000 from my business account which was infact an overdraft from the bank.I felt suicidle. my gambling had progressed from fun very rapidly to a form of escapism. Now after what could be said as one of the worst years of my life exsplaining to the banks rebuilding my business etc which has involved a number of lies to staff and also has affectted other staff who found out. I have even had to give the staff a pay cut in order to refinance my growing debts. Disaster strikes again whilst on the brink of turning the whole sittuation around. i received a check for a property that I had sold which was supposed to be a cash injection into the business however a simple call from a fellow gambler asking whether or not I was playing in napoker tournament online quickly progressed to blowing 20000 at an online casino the other guy spent 30 and has no idea of my actions. Whats even worse is that part of the money was for my kids christmas part to pay back my uncle who has supported me finacially over the past few months as well as emotionally ansd the rest was enoughf to keep my business running well into the new year.So rather than except defeat i have now knowingly stolen 20000 from the bank in a bid to win the money back. When direct debiting online my account seems to put the money back into my bank 2 days after giving me a chance to snatch it which i did with more disastrous results.All day my phones been ringing bank meeting this monday to expslain why my accounts went 17800 overdrawn. Im possibly going to lose everthing. My kids christmas is ruined and my partner is compltely exasperated. I was part suicidle or crying out for help last night. i sat in a secluded car park with a hover tube in my exhaust pipe it took me a while to figure the best way to get gas into the car but I did finally achieve the desired effect only for the pipe to melt and ruin the whole opperation. I need help. Real help before something unrversable happens. Theres a part of me that just wants to run away and hide and I probably would if I could afford it. But I cant. That story is just a basic out line of the feelings emotions and goings on in my life infact just barely scrapes the surface. Im not sure when my first meeting will take place but I am going to ne soon.
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Norman, no matter how bad things seem, be brave, go to a meeting. Hundreds of members have stories like yours. Real horror life stories, very serious stories that show how powerful gambling addiction really is. It will probably be hard for you to see, but for the members around me they are living proof that it is possible to get through this Norman. I hope you can take one ounce of belief in this that will give you the courage to take the step, that G.A. meeting will probably save your life, please go.
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Hi after reading some of the storys on here I see bits of myself the way I was for 23 years decided enough was enough.I found the roulette machines took over my life for the best part of five years.I still bet a football coupon on a Saturday the difference being if it goes down I'm accept it before if I lost a bet I would always try and win it back 9 times out of 10 I would lose everything I had.when you do win your only getting a loan of it.
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Hi Derek, in my own experiences no matter how much I won the money always ended back the other side of the counter / Internet account. A completely ridiculous pattern of repetition thinking next time it would all be different, illustrated by the numerous loans I took and in my mind believing the next loan would start again and it would all pan out. It ended in utter misery and desperation - today, G.A. meetings and members have helped me rid my will to waste my life away like this.
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i am 26 and have been gambling since i was 14. It started off with my dad putting a couple of pounds on a coupon for me but now i am just in to all types of gambling and time after time i am making the same mistakes. I am due to get married in 14 weeks and i know that this is my last chance to keep all the good things i have in life. As pathetic as it sounds i even considered suicide but that would just be a final insult to the people i love. I would be grateful if there was some kind of 1 to 1 consultation service for me and my fiance to attend as well as the group meetings.
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Hi Allan, the first step is to go to a G.A. meeting. There, you can talk 1:1 with a member, experience the meeting and take it from there. A Gam Anon meeting is also available for partner and family.
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